The I See Practice
A simple embodied practice that develops the capacity to truly witness your partner without projection or agenda.
The I See Practice
The I See Practice is a foundational Yoga of Intimacy practice that trains the Alpha quality of presence and seeing. Created by Justin Patrick Pierce and Londin Angel Winters, it develops the capacity to witness your partner without projection or the impulse to fix.
What it trains
The capacity to see your partner exactly as they are in this moment, without story, without agenda, without trying to change them.
What it builds
Presence. The felt experience of being truly seen. The safety that comes from being witnessed without judgment.
Eye contact. Witnessing. Rating.
Partners sit facing each other in eye contact. One partner says "I see..." followed by something genuinely observed about the other. The other partner responds with a number from 1 to 10 indicating how deeply they feel seen.
The Practice Steps
- Sit facing each other with soft eye contact.
- Take several synchronized breaths together.
- One partner begins: "I see..." followed by a genuine observation.
- The other partner responds with a number between 1 and 10.
- Practice for 20 minutes total, switching roles at the 10-minute interval bell.
The rating system (1-10) gives immediate feedback about the quality of presence being offered. It trains both the seer and the one being seen.
It is not interpretation.
The I See Practice is distinct from the I Feel Practice. While the I Feel Practice trains the capacity to feel and express sensation, the I See Practice trains the capacity to see without projecting your own story onto your partner.
"I see the way your shoulders are relaxed. I see softness around your eyes. I see the color of your shirt against your skin."
This is the language of the I See Practice. Not "I see that you're upset with me." Not "I see that you seem distracted." Only direct observation.
Frequently Asked Questions
What makes a good "I see" statement?
A good "I see" statement is direct, observational, and free from interpretation or judgment. It should be something you can literally see with your eyes in the present moment.
What if my partner gives me a low number?
A low number is valuable information. It means your seeing was not received as deeply as you intended. Simply receive the feedback and try again with more presence. There is no failure in this practice, only information.
How is this different from the I Feel Practice?
The I See Practice trains the witness (Alpha). The I Feel Practice trains the one expressing sensation (Omega). Together they create a complete circuit of polarity and presence between partners. Both practices are central to our sacred sexuality for couples work.
Can beginners do this practice?
Yes. This practice is appropriate for all levels. The rating system makes it very accessible because it gives immediate feedback. Even one minute of practice can be powerful.
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